WHAT KIND OF MAN SHOULD YOU BE LOOKING FOR?
In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question, “What kind of man are you looking for?”
She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking “Do you really want to know?” Reluctantly, he said “Yes”.
She began to expound…”As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can’t do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household with out the help of any man…or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask “What can you bring to the table?” The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated “I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life.”
He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain. She said, “I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple minded man. I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don’t need to be unequally yoked…believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don’t need a financial burden. I am looking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman but strong enough to keep me grounded. I am looking for someone who I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive…he just has to be worthy. God made woman to be a help mate for man. I can’t help a man if he can’t help himself.”
When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said “You are asking a lot.” She replied “I’m worth a lot.”
WHAT KIND OF MAN I AM LOOKING FOR? Same as her…if I will be asked, my answer would be the same as her. He doesn’t need to be perfect but striving for perfection. Mentally, he doesn’t need to be intelligent but at least smart enough, knows lot of things in life. Spiritually, he doesn’t have to be a pastor or missionary, as long as he is living out Jesus given mission (making committed followers of Jesus Christ). He doesn’t need to be a millionaire, (a house consist of 3 bedrooms are ok with me, with a halfcourt (basketball)..hahahahaha..pwede na rin may swimming pool, and a car…hahaha). I love this, sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman (moody pa naman ako), but strong enough to keep me grounded. Yes, I am looking for someone who I can respect. I will not marry a man whom I can’t be submissive. People knew that I am strong, that I am a bossy type of girl (they are wrong). Ask THEM, how could I not be submissive to the person that I will love unconditionally? If I’m asking a lot, it is because I’m worth a lot.
Things before I say “Yes” to a guy
Well bakit ko naman sasabihin??? He has to make an effort to know what my likes.... I’ll share one, “pa-deliver ng food (merienda or lunch sa workplace ko)..With flowers (Malaysian mums cost only P25)…it doesn’t have to be expensive..
Things before I say “I do” to a guy
Secret ulit. Gusto ko iyong sariling sikap nya malaman.
1 Corinthians 13:3-8a
3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8Love never fails.
She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking “Do you really want to know?” Reluctantly, he said “Yes”.
She began to expound…”As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can’t do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household with out the help of any man…or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask “What can you bring to the table?” The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated “I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life.”
He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain. She said, “I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple minded man. I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don’t need to be unequally yoked…believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don’t need a financial burden. I am looking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman but strong enough to keep me grounded. I am looking for someone who I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive…he just has to be worthy. God made woman to be a help mate for man. I can’t help a man if he can’t help himself.”
When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said “You are asking a lot.” She replied “I’m worth a lot.”
WHAT KIND OF MAN I AM LOOKING FOR? Same as her…if I will be asked, my answer would be the same as her. He doesn’t need to be perfect but striving for perfection. Mentally, he doesn’t need to be intelligent but at least smart enough, knows lot of things in life. Spiritually, he doesn’t have to be a pastor or missionary, as long as he is living out Jesus given mission (making committed followers of Jesus Christ). He doesn’t need to be a millionaire, (a house consist of 3 bedrooms are ok with me, with a halfcourt (basketball)..hahahahaha..pwede na rin may swimming pool, and a car…hahaha). I love this, sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman (moody pa naman ako), but strong enough to keep me grounded. Yes, I am looking for someone who I can respect. I will not marry a man whom I can’t be submissive. People knew that I am strong, that I am a bossy type of girl (they are wrong). Ask THEM, how could I not be submissive to the person that I will love unconditionally? If I’m asking a lot, it is because I’m worth a lot.
Things before I say “Yes” to a guy
Well bakit ko naman sasabihin??? He has to make an effort to know what my likes.... I’ll share one, “pa-deliver ng food (merienda or lunch sa workplace ko)..With flowers (Malaysian mums cost only P25)…it doesn’t have to be expensive..
Things before I say “I do” to a guy
Secret ulit. Gusto ko iyong sariling sikap nya malaman.
1 Corinthians 13:3-8a
3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8Love never fails.
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